Whatever is...is perfection. Allow me
to explain. No matter how bad a situation may seem, it is the only
one what could have happened given all the prerequisites. Had a
different set of conditions prevailed, then they would have
produced a different circumstance. So, whatever conditions you
find yourself in, they are a perfect reflection of the conditions
that were present to create them.
Now for the good news. Whatever your circumstance, they can be
changed for the better if you can create a new set of conditions.
Without a change
in the prerequisite conditions, your circumstances will remain the
same. To create the circumstance you prefer, you must first create
the necessary perquisites.
Until the necessary conditions are changed, the present
circumstances will continue.
What all this means is the following. First, you'd do well to
accept your present circumstances, since they are a perfect fit
for the conditions that created them. No point in getting upset
about things you can't change immediately. Second, if you have the
power to change the conditions that are responsible for your
present circumstances, then you have the power to change your
outcomes. Ideally, you should accept everything about your
circumstances right now... as you actively work to change the
prerequisites leading to a better future.
Changing Yourself for the
Better
The fastest and most effective way to
change for the better is to get rid of some of our negative emotions
such as fear, anger, and anxiety. All emotions are supported by a
set of beliefs. Negative emotions are supported by negative beliefs,
by definition. For example, most people become fearful if they
believe they're not are good or capable enough to cope with
important life situations, such as handling their affairs or
achieving what is important to them in life. Thus, the belief that
"I am not good enough" (as I am now) is an irrational
belief, because it leads to toxic emotions.
In selected circumstances, perhaps when
you are extended beyond your comfort zone, this belief might get
triggered. When it does, you will likely respond with fear and
anxiety. So, if you want to rid yourself of these pesky emotions
that cause you anguish, start by getting rid of the irrational
beliefs that support them. For example, to counter the irrational
belief that you aren't good enough, you must challenge the belief
directly. Instead of allowing the subconscious to hold a toxic and
life devaluing notion that you are not good enough, challenge it
with this statement, " I can do almost anything I want if I
have the proper incentive." or this one, "If I act like
the person I want to be, then I will be the person I want to
be."
Write down your own personal rational
challenges as you think of them. Then, when a negative emotion is
triggered, use them to counter the irrational belief that is
supporting them. Over time, the irrational belief will slowly be
replaced by its rational equivalent. When the replacement is
complete, similar situation will trigger the new rational belief
instead. When a rational belief is triggered, you will respond with
more acceptance, resolve, and readiness to take proactive action.
